Living in the Moment - Veda Madem
Growing up, my parents would tell me to “be in the present” whenever I got wrapped up in my thoughts. In response I would dismiss their words, saying “I already am,” because I honestly didn’t really understand what they were trying to say. In my teenage mind I was already living in the present, because how else could I be living?
Since then I have realized that there are actually many ways to “live”. Some people stay stuck in the past, replaying old memories or regrets. Others are constantly living in the future, always planning or worrying about what comes next. Both types of people miss out on what’s happening right now. Don’t get me wrong, reflecting on the past and planning for the future are both useful, but they should be ultimately used for making better decisions in the present.
Strategies
As a person who tends to get caught up in thoughts of the past and future, I’ve had to come up with a few tricks to snap myself out of it. One strategy that works for me is telling myself to pause and ground myself. Then I take a deep breath. It’s simple, but it works for me. It sort of hits the reset button in my brain, stopping my spiral of thoughts long enough for me to realize I’m not living in the moment. These steps have been pretty effective in helping me appreciate the world around me.
My Outlet!
Lately, I have been trying to ground myself by making more time for my favorite hobbies, and baking has become my go-to activity. What I love most about baking isn’t just the fun of making and eating my creations (though let’s be real, that’s a huge part!!), but seeing my friends’ faces light up when they try something I’ve made. The process itself is pretty therapeutic too–I’ll put on some music and channel any stress or nervous energy I have into making a batch of delicious banana bread. There’s something about the whole process–measuring ingredients, mixing the batter, the smell of something wafting through the whole apartment- that keeps me in the present. When baking I’m not worrying about some awkward interaction two weeks ago, or stressing about what to do after graduation. I’m just standing in my kitchen making something yummy to enjoy with people I care about.
Takeaways
I think that’s what my parents were trying to get me to understand. Being present isn’t simply existing in the moment; it’s really experiencing it! Whether it is through baking, or any other hobby that keeps you focused and brings you happiness, finding ways to engage with the present can make a huge difference. I still have a ways to go, but I at least get what they meant… and I have desserts to keep me going!